Front Porch Musings

by Karen Goodlett, SPHR – Certification Guru

 

front_porchGrowing up in North Florida, every house in my neighborhood had a front porch.  No one had air conditioning, so the porch was the “cool place” to hang out.

 

Of all the porches, my grandmother’s was the best.  Nanny lived around the corner and I loved to sit on her porch. Screened with comfortable furniture, it offered a place to talk and view the world.  From Nanny’s front porch, you could keep up with everything that was going on up and down the street.  You knew who was home; who had gone grocery shopping; who had visitors and often who was visiting.  You could wave and talk to the neighbors out for a walk and sometimes invite them in for coffee.  You knew the habits of your neighbors so well that you could tell that one of them was under the weather and cook up a pot of chicken soup to take over later.

 

When central air conditioning came on the scene, builders quit adding front porches to homes. Looking out at my street today and the neighbors I don’t know reminds me of what we’ve missed by not having a front porch view.

 

When I meet someone at a dinner or party, the conversation generally involves what we do for a living.  When I explain that I work in Human Resources, the response recently has been; “So what do you people in Human Resources really do?”   I’ll ask about their HR office and in talking realize they are asking me because they never see their HR staff.

 

Have we been working so hard to get a “seat at the table” with management that we’ve neglected the view from the front porch at work?  Do we still know and understand the day-to-day world of our employees?  We know the law, the rules, regulations, policies and procedures. We know the business’s vision and how HR aligns with that vision, but do we know the employees and what is important to them?

 

Maybe when we are not at the table with management, we could be out on the front porch; paying attention to what’s happening around us; greeting people and sometimes inviting them in for coffee.   If we do, we will be better able to serve our business and have fewer people wondering “what do you really do?”

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It’s All About Relationships

by Karen Goodlett, SPHR – Certification Guru

 

Keith Ferrazzi

Keith Ferrazzi

Anyone who read my earlier post is aware of how much I have been looking forward to hearing Keith Ferrazzi speak at HR Florida.  Keith presented one of the Masters’ Sessions entitled “Relationships for Group Success”.  He is the author of two bestselling books emphasizing the importance of relationships in our personal and professional lives.

 

Keith’s two hour presentation included several “group work” sessions in which we were encouraged to use his relationship development ideas.  Each attendee’s experience was affected by what they learned through listening and interacting with others. It has taken several days of reflection to summarize my “take homes.”  Here they are:

 

*Relationships are fundamental to our success!

 

*Deep social bonding among team members will result in greater success for the team.

 

*It is essential to develop a strategic plan for our lives.  What do we want to achieve in 30 days? 3 years? Long term? (We must know where we’re going before we can map out a route to get there.)

 

*Find two people with whom to develop “lifeline relationships.”  Lifeline Relationships incorporate peers who we care for and respect. These relationships should be mutually beneficial and include the core values of honesty, transparency, and accountability. (Note the concept of “mutual relationship” – people are not a commodity to be used and tossed aside.)

 

*Ask for help: “What do you see me doing that holds me back?” (Friends can help someone recognize and move beyond negative behaviors and subliminal patterns.)

 

*Remember feedback is a gift. It is information to be processed just like all other experience.  Take it or leave it, but always say “Thank you”. 

 

We often hear the saying – “It’s not what you know, but who you know.” There is some truth in this statement; we are who we are because of our relationships with others. The relationships we develop at work, chapter meetings, conferences, and volunteering in the community help us to grow personally and professionally.  In Human Resources, as in life, “what you know” is critical, but it is in relationships with others that we are able to leverage that knowledge to make a difference.   

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